Why do women ask you to contact them to make sure you two are still on for the date? Is it so they can make sure you are going to show up?
It is for a number of reasons, and here are the most common.
Most common reasons a women asks to confirm the date:
- They are testing you
- Low level of attraction for you
- Using it to break the date
- Learned from friends or family
I’ve experienced all of these scenarios which I didn’t always handle right IE: I agreed to confirm the date.
That obviously resulted in the date never happening.
At the end of the day, if the she has a high level of attraction in you, she will make it easy for you to go out with her. The lower her level of attraction, the more hesitation and BS excuses she will give you.
Let me explain each reason a little bit more so you have a solid understanding.
This is where women test your strength, seeing if you are really a man.
Right away she is figuring out how much she can push you around, how much you will change, and if you’ll stand up for yourself.
She is trying to find out how much she can get away with and how much you are willing to get jerked around. Because a real man would never bend over backwards for anyone, including their women.
Now not all women are going to push you around so they can walk all over you, but ALL women do test.
Tests are designed and performed consciously or unconsciously by women to see what you are made of and if you are authentic. All women test, some more than others, and becoming aware of the tests and passing them will alone differentiate you from most men.
Low level of attraction:
This is pretty obvious, if they suddenly lose attraction, or started off with low attraction, they will use the confirm date as a way to back out if they want.
If they aren’t connecting with you anymore for whatever reason, maybe their ex came back into the picture, this can ruin any chance with her. This leads me to the next point.
Using it to break the date:
Many women will knowingly ask for you to confirm the date so that when you call they will give you some BS excuse as to why they can’t go anymore.
What I’ve definitely noted about women is they are driven by their emotions rather than logic like most men. So when they give you excuses to breaking dates or why they can’t give you their phone number, it’s because they don’t want to hurt your feelings and to avoid conflict.
Learned from friends or family:
This one is sorta like a mixture of the last two, they learned the confirm date from a family member or friend because they were told they were told that is how you do things.
This isn’t good for the women because it teaches her to become ruled rather than being open and honest.
With that idea ingrained in them, it ruins their chances with a lot of high quality men.
Another example of a “ruled” women are the ones that say they don’t kiss on the first date!
The next question is what do you do when a women asks to confirm the date?
If you set a definite date which is a definite time and place, then all you have to say is:
“Hey, I don’t do call/text to confirm, I’m really busy and I can’t be waiting around unsure if you can make it or not, I’m a man of my word so I’ll definitely be at (place of date) at (time)”
Then wait for her response.
If she becomes persistent and tries something to get you to accept?
Don’t do it.
If she is adamant about you calling to confirm the date then do the take away.
That is you saying, “it sounds like you are unsure whether you can make it or not, lets just do it another time”
Wait for her response.
This will catch her off guard because no other man does this to her.
After the take away she will either realize you won’t back down and go along with the plans, or she make agree to cancel.
If she cancels then I’d suggest asking her out one more time 5-7 days later. And if she pulls the same thing again, delete her number, she ain’t worth it.
Confirming dates is a bad way to go, so have definite plans to meet somewhere/pick her up, or do the take away. Never give in to call/text to confirm dates. Because at the end of the day, if she likes you, she is going to help you. She isn’t going to try to avoid the date but be excited that you asked her out.
This is one of many subtle signs in my understanding of women. Take care.
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